The Kind of Friendships I’m Holding Onto

I’ve come to realise that you can tell a lot about a friendship by how you feel after the conversation ends. Whether it was over coffee, through a voice note, or just a simple message exchange.

Did you walk away feeling heard? Seen? Like your heart was understood without needing to explain every detail? Was there a quiet comfort in knowing that nothing you said would ever be twisted or held against you? No pressure to perform, no fear of judgment, just the ease of being exactly who you are.

Or… did you leave that interaction feeling worried, self-conscious or drained? A little too in your own head? Worried you said too much, or not enough? Did you catch yourself overthinking, replaying the conversation in your mind, wondering if you were misunderstood or if your words were taken the wrong way? That’s not the kind of weight I want to carry anymore.

The truth is, I only want friendships where I feel emotionally safe. Where I know, deep down, that my reputation, my heart, and my flaws are protected. Even if I trip over my words, even if I say something clumsy, that person knows me well enough to understand my heart.

I want the kind of friendship where I don’t walk away second-guessing myself. Where I don’t sit in silence wondering if I was too much or not enough. I want to feel lighter after we talk. And having that in a friend is such a rare, beautiful gift.

Because real, grounded, soul-nourishing friendships don’t leave you feeling heavy. They leave you feeling light. True friendship feels like a deep exhale.

If you have a friendship like that, or lucky enough to have more than one, let them know today that you love and appreciate them. I know when I count my blessings I count my best friends twice.

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